Controversial take but we need to destigmatize calm anger. Like. People need to be allowed to say “fuck that guy” or “I just want to punch them in the nose”, and so long as they're not lunging at you or screaming, that needs to be okay.
I see a lot of “No more joking about killing myself” posts but very few about how a lot of those jokes are a way of internalizing anger about something that was done to you, and being angry about bad things is okay.